By Rosemary Marchese
Physiotherapist and mum of 3 fit kids
Why ‘busy’ doesn’t have to mean frantic
In today’s busy world it’s easy to think we are run off our feet, running from one thing to another but is it time to re-define ‘busy’? Women of yesteryear fought so hard for the rights of women – the right to vote, the right to work, the right to an education. And now here we have it. So many opportunities and yet we (well, some of us) often tend to complain a lot.
What does your busy life look like?
I think it’s time to redefine ‘busy’. Busy can mean that you are simply ‘occupied’. It doesn’t have to mean rushed. Sure, we all have heaps to do but in any one moment we have something that is occupying our time…that can even be sleep! Let’s face it, when you are asleep you don’t want to be disturbed, do you? So, you are busy. Occupied. That’s it. You are not rushing around.
When I was thinking about the title of my recently released book ‘The Fit Busy Mum: Seven habits for success’ and this website at first I had trouble coming to terms with the use of the word ‘busy’. Did it really mean that I was endorsing a rushed life? But when I asked a whole heap of mums – working mums, stay-at-home mums, new mums, older mums, single mums and grandmums – they all said the same thing…they are ‘busy’. The point they were making is that, sure there is not much time for boredom (although let’s face it, some of the things we do day-in and day-out are boring – thinking laundry myself) but really there are so many mums out there embracing life for all its worth and going for it! They are smashing goals and achieving things that women of our past could only have dreamed of if they had been given the chance.
I’m surrounded by so many mums doing incredible things. Mums adopting. Mums going back to uni. Mums starting up businesses. Mums helping out in schools and charities. So much great stuff. While I am aim to inspire and empower mums as much as I can I don’t think the mums around me realise that they all inspire me too! The busy mums are not complaining (sure, because there is no time to complain). They are finding their purpose and going for it. Sure, we could all probably do with a little more mindfulness and living in the moment rather than going through a big ‘to-do’ list but the point is we are busy because we are contributing to the world. I think we can celebrate that as long as we are not rushing around while we are doing it!
Rose is a Fit Busy Mum of 3 fit kids. She aims to empower mums who are time poor. She acknowledges that mums are ‘busy’ but tries to inspire them to regain their fitness through simple everyday habits that she promotes through her book ‘The Fit Busy Mum: Seven habits for success’.