By Heather Greaves
Reiki Teacher, Yoga Instructor and Holistic Counsellor
Getting to HAPPY
One of the things my friends and I are always on about is how stressed we are; stressed from the kids; stressed from husbands, work, exercise…you name it; if we are spending time doing it, we are complaining about it! What is this stress we are speaking about? And, why is it making us so unhappy with our lives?
Firstly, I want to say that if you are stressed, it’s all YOUR fault! Yes, that’s right…YOUR fault…not your boss; not your kids; not your partner; YOU! I know that I may not be very popular for saying this, but the truth is not always the easiest pill to swallow.
Stress happens when we are not aligned with our Truth…in laymen terms, that means: When you do ANYTHING that is not what you want to do, distress or (shortened to) STRESSS will occur to various degrees. You may say, ‘Well it’s impossible to always do what I want to’ or ‘I can’t help if my kids get sick and I have to miss a day of work and my boss puts me on notice as a result. These are very plausible reasons to become stressed, however, if you are stressed I still maintain that it is still your fault.
I’m not saying that in life we are not met with many challenges, we are. Yet with every challenge, we have a CHOICE. Yes, you heard me. We have a choice in how we act (notice I did not say re-act, which implies that life is happening to you). To Act is to be able to make a conscious decision in the present moment. In every moment, you are creating your life, so if you are stressed and unhappy with it, then you only have yourself to blame.
Now, the good news…I mean, the GREAT news is, YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE THAT! How? You get to make a different CHOICE! That may seem too ridiculously easy and for many, it will be far more complicated than that, but in essence, only you have the authority over your life to change it.
Depending on the choices you have made to bring you to this point of stress may require of you to make some quite radical and challenging changes to your current existence. ‘Getting to Happy’ may take some time and/or willingness on your part to change many of your thought patterns and habits. If you are holding onto past hurts and disappointments, you may need to go through some tough self-love to free yourself from those memories and rewrite a new story. Asking for help and support with this in not the worst thing in the world!
You may say, ‘that sounds like too much work’ or ‘Too hard but it is totally up to you’. You can choose to continue trying to please everyone; overwork yourself for recognition that may never come; feel overwhelmed because you have not dealt with past transgressions of others; whatever it is that’s holding you back from being Happy is your choice. You can continue to let it stop you from the life you want or you can choose to make the necessary changes to accept the wonderful life you are dreaming about. If you didn’t believe deep down that it was possible, then it would be easier to accept your current life and not stress. ‘Come on! Get HAPPY!’