By Heather Greaves
Reiki Teacher, Yoga Instructor and Holistic Counsellor
I remember when I was first learning Kundalini yoga I would often hear my instructor say to our class, ‘Why do you hold onto those beliefs that weigh you down … let it go.’ I rationally understood what he was trying to impart, but I had no clue as to how or what I was meant to let go of!
Over the years, and through much trial and error, I think I have come up with a little recipe for those who are struggling with outmoded, outdated internal recordings; those recordings that are running your life and you know are not working.
First: It is important to have an awareness of what actually makes you happy. This may sound simple, but believe me, defining what really made me happy took a bit of time. Once you become clear on those things that bring you joy, fulfilment, peace and a sense of achievement to your life – not those things you think ‘should’ bring you happiness – just sit with them.
Second: Anything – and I mean anything – that you are allowing to get in the way of those happy things, be they a job, friends, family, negative self-talk, bad habits, guilt, and the like are the things you want to get rid of from your day-to-day life. Not necessarily literally, as you can’t get rid of people per se, but releasing the emotions you have attached to things that are not adding to your life in any way other than suffering.
Third: Make time, quiet time, for yourself, or ME (My Energy) time to observe those thoughts, feelings and/or emotional blocks in your life; as if you are watching and remembering yourself having those feelings and experiences but not attaching yourself to them. This takes some practice, but I find doing a yoga set and then meditating or going for a long walk on the beach allows me the space I need to connect to those outdated tape recordings.
Letting go doesn’t mean people or events in your life disappear as though they never happened (that is impossible, as you cannot erase the past). It is, however, about forgiving yourself or someone else for those events; accepting that they happened in your past and are not happening right now; and recognising that you do not enjoy them and therefore don’t need to bring them into your future. Holding onto past pain and transgressions only hurts you and keeps you from peace and happiness.
Fourth: Once you have identified those things that are inhibiting your present state of bliss, and you have accepted that you are the only one who has the power to change their hold on you, begin to focus on increasing the joy you feel when you think about the things that really make you happy. Sit in those feelings … bathe in that presence … allow that joy to replace the heaviness and/or darkness that you were holding onto. Slowly you will start to feel less and less burdened by those former tapes. And you can give yourself a pat on the back for freeing yourself from their hold and start loving the real YOU!