By Rosemary Marchese
Physiotherapist and mum of 3 fit kids
Time – Our Most Precious Commodity
I’m hearing more and more frequently from clients and friends, “Gosh, there just isn’t enough hours in a day”; or “If I only had more time I would look after myself better”; or “I just don’t have time to do what I want.”
My question is, “What could possibly be more important than looking after yourself and doing what you want? If there were 25hours in a day, would you fill that extra hour with more on your “need-to-do lists” or would you really use that hour for some ME (my energy) time?
Well, since our society has created a 24hour day, why not make the most of it instead of wishing away the time? Let’s do a short calculation here… If we are getting enough sleep, that means we are down for 8 of those 24hours. If we are eating 3 meals a day, how about we calculate 1hour for each meal (includes prep and clean up time). Now, that gives us a grand total of 13 hours to fit in work, family and ME time. Even if you work 8 of those 13 hours that still leaves you 5 hours to work out a daily plan to allocate how you wish to spend your time. Now, I’m not saying that you need to do this military style, but sometimes when we can break things into manageable sizes, it seems more doable.
So of those 5 hours a day, is it too much to ask of you to give yourself 60 minutes of ME time? Go for a jog; walk on the beach, meditate, call a friend, read a book; ANYTHING that either brings you immediate happiness or something that you can do that gives you satisfaction towards a personal goal, needs to become part of each of your days.
Making YOU a priority will make you more relaxed, less stressed and more available for others. It also teaches your children a valuable lesson that Nothing is more important in your life than YOU. When we constantly give to work; give to our children; give to charity; give to our friends; give, give, give…at some point, we won’t have anything left! And, that’s just not good for anybody!
Many of us were raised with a belief that if we give, we will get more in return. In most cases, this thinking has led people into a false sense of expectation that ONLY leads to disappointment. The subconscious mind knows you can’t give and not receive on some level, so the ego jumps on board and says, “Well, I’m doing so many nice things for people when do I get my just rewards?” If you don’t look after you, no one else will. And besides, no one knows you better than you, so therefore you must know what is best for you! No one can do YOU better than you (no pun intended).
It’s all about balance. Yes, give! And, when you give to you, you will be able to give more to others because you are giving from a full cup, not a glass half empty! There is not a greater feeling in this world than to give, so why not give to you?
Rose is a Fit Busy Mum of 3 fit kids. She aims to empower mums who are time poor. She acknowledges that mums are ‘busy’ but tries to inspire them to regain their fitness through simple everyday habits that she promotes through her book ‘The Fit Busy Mum: Seven habits for success’. Visit www.thefitbusymum.com.au